hi therei think i know what you are describing but i have never seen one. personally i don't like allen heads for the reasons you describe. the only time they work for me is when they are sunk below the surface as on a motorcycle timing cover. the other problem is they often have a generous radius under the head requiring a corresponding chamfer on the washer. sorry for rambling. but if you can't find the genuine article maybe a plain washer will work. ARP has washers some quite thick with or without chamfers. they are available through Summit i believe still quite pricey but quality. i f you find the cup variety let us know. always willing to learn.
happy hunting stuey