While I’m not exactly sure which rear end you’re dealing with, you should be dealing with a crush sleeve located between the two pinion bearings. A new crush sleeve will allow the pinion bearing preload to be set while holding the nut tight. If reusing the old crush sleeve, there’s a very good chance that once the proper bearing drag is achieved, there‘s still not enough torque on the nut to hold it tight. That’s due to the used crush sleeve being too short now and not able to hold tension on the nut with the bearing preload where it needs to be. A side of the road fix for used crush sleeves is to put them over a small pipe and hammer on the outside edge around their circumference so that the sleeve becomes longer. Not the recommended fix but will at least get you home.